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Rethinking Sexuality

 Rethinking Sexuality, God's Design and Why it Matters, by Dr. Juli Slattery

Stuff I underlined:
"The quickest way to the heart is through a wound." John Piper "You and I have this same opportunity to make the gospel relevant and personal to those who are silently suffering around us." p26

"We have conceded the area of sexuality to the world's persuasive arguments and seductive philosophy." p31

"Two of the greatest challenges surrounding sexuality are convincing single Christians to abstain from sex and convincing married Christians to enjoy sex.  True sexual intimacy in marriage is not just about making your body available. It's about giving your whole self to your spouse. It requires enough trust to enter into passion." page 57

"Satan wants to convince us that God is not trustworthy." p 69

"The beauty of broken: Jesus most profoundly demonstrated the power and love of God when He ministered to hurting people...Those with deep scars have something profound to teach us, something that can be learned only through the fires of intense brokenness." p.83

"We need people in our everyday lives who love us, laugh with us, and tell us the truth about what they see. We need those who would weep with us, rejoice with us, and carry burdens that are far too heavy for our own shoulders alone. We need husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters, mentors and counselors committed to hearing our stories and walking with us on our messy journey." p.98

"There is a difference between trying to live a perfect life and striving to live in perfect surrender... Your true surrendered story is perhaps the most powerful tool you have to influence the world for the Lord Jesus Christ... My friend, don't allow a mask, some version of your public self, to mute your story." p 133

Kim Vollendorf, "A mentor once told me, "Jesus loved the masses, helped many, but discipled a few." p. 156

"Sexual discipleship requires that pastors and teachers proclaim God's design for sexuality. It requires that people with gifts of mercy minister to the brokenhearted, that men and women with wisdom give counsel and guidance..." p. 176

I highly recommend this book because it's been insightful for me.


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